The Boat of Boredom: What to Do When You're Bored Being at Home

An introduction to today's post from Kendra:

I met Jen Holloway, the author of today's post, at the beginning of this year after she moved to our small town with her husband and toddler. I learned she is a writer - a good one - but we've also had some great discussions about how boring staying at home can be when you're used to having a career outside of the home. 

I know some of our readers feel the monotony that staying at home and raising children can bring, and I thought Jen's post was important to share as an encouragement if you're in that place.

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When I was in graduate school I had to take classes in research methods and theory. They were mandatory and difficult and supposed to help you with your thesis and future plunge in the world of academia, supposing you were headed that way.

Thankfully I had awesome teachers that kept me interested because I didn’t find these classes particularly useful past my graduation date as I was one of the few who wanted a career outside of academia. 

Dr. Sparks, or Sparky as he allowed me to refer to him outside of class, was my professor for theory. During one of our first classes we discussed paradigm shifts — what a paradigm actually was, what his was concerning the subject matter and the importance of shifting our paradigm to his. He said something along the lines of, “Get in my boat.”

I’ll never forget that day. We actually drew a boat on the board to better visualize this. That class helped me get through graduate school as well as remember the definition of the word paradigm since it was one I didn’t frequently use. 

A model . . . a worldview . . . a way of thinking, if you will. 

To successfully navigate grad school waters, I had to first learn what paradigm my professors followed and then adjust all of my work for that class to reflect said paradigm. Conforming to their paradigm equaled achievement. The students who bucked the system had trouble keeping up. 

I’ve recently begun thinking of paradigms again, only this time, in regards to motherhood. While pregnant with my first child I thought of how I would soon spend my days caring for my new baby, dedicating every moment to this little one’s every need. Feeding, diapering, laundry, playing peek-a-boo — all of these things would become my new routine. I would find fulfillment in this. I would love it.

Then my son was born and reality set in. That paradigm I had of motherhood no longer held up. For starters, I was a stay-at-home-mom by default. I was unemployed when my son was born. All attempts at full-time work in my chosen field had failed, and my temp job ended six weeks before the little man showed up. I was okay with this. I felt like it must have been God’s plan.

Then the first month passed and my anxiety about being a mother grew and grew. It wasn’t until after I stumbled out of this terrifying fog that I determined I had actually suffered from postpartum depression. Thankfully that stumbling had taken me to a support group and other resources, and the Lord took care of me and pulled me through. 

And then my very best friends in the world all had babies in the months following my delivery, so we created a mom’s group, and I now had things to do, places to be . . . built-in adult interaction if you will. 

But something still felt off. I didn’t live in a commune so there were many times where I was alone with my baby. And he was happy playing independently. And the laundry was done. And the house was clean . . . ish. What to do? Do I search for part-time work? Do I volunteer? Do I become a master crafter with an Etsy shop and enviable Pinterest boards? What do I do with my baby while I try to do all of these things? Do I hunker down into the Lord and let Him satisfy me? (The answer to this last question is yes; however, most of us know that is not as easily done as it is said.)

These questions have been playing a ping-pong game in my head for over a year. There are days I’m totally happy with where I am and what I’m doing. (And by the way, we moved across the country during this time, so my built-in playgroup is no more for me.) I know I’m so blessed to be able to raise my child how the Lord is leading. Then there are days I want to drop my son off at daycare and head straight for the nearest employment office to do whatever so I can be near adults. But you know what I’m really feeling?

Most of the time I’m bored. 

So bored.

Yes, being a stay-at-home-mom is hard work. It is. It is everything every other pro-SAHM blog has written. It really is. I’m not here to undermine that movement. 

But right now, with one kid to take care of who is really easy and loves to play trucks and trains and blocks with very little help from me, I find myself reading all of these pro-SAHM articles and wondering what I’m doing wrong. Sure I could go clean a bathroom. But I just cleaned it a week or so ago. I could go start a new sewing project. But then my son would be underfoot and get tangled in a spool of thread. I could try to play with him more. But have any of you ever played trains for hours on end with a child who has a limited vocabulary? 

According to everything I’m reading, I should be bone-tired at the end of my day. I should be filled with joy due to my bone-tiredness. I should be grateful I have a child to play with. I should “cherish every moment.” I should search for the lesson here because God has a plan for this time.

But I’m not, or I don’t. Not all the time. I don’t feel these things/ do these things all the time. Some days I do. But some days I don’t. And some days I’m bored. 

And you know what? I think I need to be okay with that. Life is about seasons. 

Solomon wrote about this stuff in Ecclesiastes 3. If women during that time didn’t have to make everything from scratch in order to survive, “a time to be bored and a time to be lively” might have found its way into the passage. However, he does write, “there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens . . . ” Perhaps this is my season for a little boredom tossed in with my toddler-wrangling. Maybe my motherhood paradigm for “mother to one” has shifted to include some downtime, some inactivity. And inactivity without guilt. I’m just in a boat that meanders through some seas of boredom.

Hopefully one day I’ll jump ship into a boat as a mother to two, and an entirely different paradigm will take over. But until then, maybe my lesson is about grace . . . for myself.


 

 

Jennifer Holloway was born and raised in Alabama where she grew in her love for sweet tea and biscuits and gravy, though her dislike of grits might cause some to disown her. She currently resides in California, but her heart remains in New England where she lived before making the trek west. Jen and her husband are raising a two-year-old son, tolerating a middle-aged German shepherd and expecting baby #2 this fall. 

 


Spring Nature Study With Preschoolers and Maureen Spell

After a bitter cold winter, my family is glad spring is here! We are emerging from hibernating at home and are so ready to experience spring! One of my favorite activities to do with my preschoolers is to get out and observe and experience nature. So much is happening in spring! Here are some nature topics we hope to cover:
  • butterflies
  • frogs
  • seeds, seedlings and growing a garden
  • worms
  • ladybugs
  • hummingbirds
  • pond life
  • rain, mud puddles
  • baby animals
  • ants
Nature Study with Preschoolers

While this might look like a long list, it is something that we can easily cover! I accomplish it in the following ways:

Nature Walks
Whether it is walking around our neighborhood or hiking at our local state park, we can usually spy at least one of the topics from our list.

Nature Literature
There are so many great preschool science books. I'll just pick one or two books that cover a topic on our list and read it during our read-aloud time.

Nature baskets
Occasionally I'll put together a little themed nature basket that contains books, binoculars, magnifying glass and other hands-on objects that relate to the subject.

Nature Journals
When we do family nature walks, my older children would sometimes draw in their nature notebooks. My younger children wanted their own journals so I made printable nature journals that are just their size. These journals are made from paper bags. My preschool children fill out and glue various pages into their books. When finished, it makes a great booklet to read and reread!

Nature Units
I'll also mix in a more formal nature study unit. Recently we've been learning about hummingbirds. We've created a hummingbird observation center in our living room, read books, watched videos, and started a hummingbird nature journal.

Nature In-Doors
As much as I like keeping critters outside, sometimes it is easier to bring nature in to study! We've brought in ants, worms, butterflies, ladybugs, tadpoles and fish to observe up-close. We also might bring in other nature treasures such as rocks, pinecones, seeds, twigs, flowers and more!

Nature-Related Coloring Pages & Games
Coloring pages, nature puzzles, animal charades, I Spy games and more give me lots of opportunities to talk with my children about various nature topics.

Free Nature Printables

I've included a couple of free nature-related printables to get you started on your nature study journey! There is an open-ended drawing printable, a great hummingbird coloring page, two nature journal pages, and two animal puzzles. Do you have any spring-related nature study goals? Any nature study tips to share?

affiliate link:  Get Nature Study Printables for Toddlers and Preschoolers + the Hummingbirds Unit Study for just $5.00 - such a great summer Circle Time activity!

Maureen Spell is a former elementary school teacher who now has a classroom of 7 at home. She blogs at Spell Outloud, a blog that has nothing to do with spelling and everything to do with learning. With kids ranging from toddler to teen, she highlights many homeschool activities, toddler and preschool crafts, and free printables. Stop by her blog for more preschool science activities.

Van Gogh Artist Study from a Non-Arty Mom

We are so happy to welcome Candace, from His Mercy Is New, to our blog today. She is a homeschool mom of three who has learned how to teach art to her kids, even though she isn't an arty person. I have referenced her blog SO many times when I need a great art project to do with my kids. Keep reading and enjoy!

"I've just kept on ceaselessly painting in order to learn painting." Van Gogh
Sharing creative endeavors with our children is vital. Kids need art. I have come to believe that more and more with each passing year as a mom. One way that we can do that is by studying the great artists, learning more about their lives, simply looking at their famous works of art, and then creating similar projects based on those famous works.

Now, before you claim that you are not an artist, how in the world can you teach this to your kids...I want to let you in on a little secret. I'm no artist either. I do have some creative genes in me, but they are mostly in the form of music. However, with no art background, I taught an entire year of art classes at our homeschool co-op! AND I'm signed up to do it again next year! WHAT?!? Why in the world? And HOW?? I created a series on my blog just for moms like us who need a little help in this department because THAT is how important I feel it is!! You can see the entire series called Teaching Art {With The Help Of Pinterest} on my blog.

Today, I'm excited to share with you some simple ideas for incorporating an artist study on Van Gogh into your homeschool. Friends, you can do this study with kids of ALL ages. Starting from those little preschoolers all the way up to your high school kids! Take a look at these resources, choose a few that fit your family and get started!

Read a few books on Van Gogh, do a few art projects, copy a few of his famous quotes. Voila! Simple artist study that is enjoyable for the entire family. Many of these books listed below have Van Gogh's famous artwork throughout the illustrations, however, if you want to view more of his artwork, take a look at this website.

Van Gogh Picture Books

12 picture books about Vincent Van Gogh @mercyisnew.com

  1. Camille and the Sunflowers
  2. In the Garden with Van Gogh
  3. Vincent's Colors ~ this is a very simple book with simple, short wording, but it's also one of my favorites because the lines in this book are Vincent's own words written about his paintings in letters to his brother!
  4. Katie and the Starry Night ~ These James Mayhew books are EXCELLENT, probably my favorite books to introduce children to these famous artists!
  5. Vincent Van Gogh: Sunflowers and Swirly Stars (Smart About Art)
  6. Visiting Vincent Van Gogh
  7. Vincent van Gogh & the Colors of the Wind
  8. The Van Gogh Cafe ~ this is more of a chapter book, 64 pages, but I had to include it because it was written by one of my favorite children's authors, Cynthia Rylant
  9. van Gogh and the Sunflowers (Anholt's Artists Books for Children)
  10. Katie Meets The Impressionists
  11. The Yellow House: Vincent Van Gogh and Paul Gauguin Side by Side ~ this is based on a true story and my art students and I had a great conversation based on this book after reading it together.
  12. Katie and the Sunflowers

Van Gogh Art Projects

Van Gogh's Sunflowers Art Lesson Part 2 @mercyisnew.com

Van Gogh Copywork Pages

I have created some simple copy work pages for your children to use as you learn about Van Gogh! These are quotes from Van Gogh on the subject of art, 4 pages total. Click on the link or on the graphic to download your PDF copy work pages!

Van Gogh Copy Work Pages Set

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I hope you and your children enjoy this glimpse into the life of Van Gogh! Get messy and creative with your kids this week!! They will love you for it and the mess will be worth it. I promise.  

eReaders for Kids - Kindle, Nook, and More!

Have you been wondering how to incorporate an eReader like a Kindle or a Nook into your homeschool? Are you thinking about giving one to your kids, but hesitant because you're not sure their usage of an eReader would justify the cost? 

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We had a lively discussion about eReaders on the Preschoolers and Peace Facebook page several weeks ago. Some of you prefer a houseful of hardbound books and others, like mom-of-five Michele, have provided one for each of your reading children. 

Here's what Michele has to say about Kindles: 

We are a family of readers.  And as with most homeschooling families, we have a lot of books. All great books. Books to be read over and over and over. We are frequent patrons of our local library as well as loyal Amazon customers who appreciate two-day shipping. 

Our family also travels a fair amount, in order to spend more time with my husband who travels for work. When I thought more and more about taking our homeschooling on the road, or in the air, I knew that our current method of paper books wasn't going to work long term. When each person only gets one 20kg piece of luggage, we can't fill it with books! And so we entered the world of e-readers. 

As Christmas neared last year and I started getting requests for gift ideas for the family, I realized that e-readers would make great gifts. Our family received two Kindles for Christmas, which we originally designated primarily for the older two children (ages 9 and 7). We set up a new Amazon account specifically for these Kindles so that the children would only have access to those books we purchase or borrow for them. Also, that Amazon account has no payment method recorded so there won't be any accidental purchases! 

I frequent a few websites that list free or discounted Kindle books available each day, which allows me to get a lot of books for free. My favorite is E-Reader Girl which is owned by Crystal Paine of Money Saving Mom. The ladies that run this site are careful in the books that they list so I can be confident that I won't download something that will make me blush later. Almost daily they will post a list of Christian fiction, non-fiction and children's books.

At Christmas time, starting Black Friday, Amazon does some really great deals on Kindle books. I was able to buy the first six books of The Boxcar Children for only $6.99. They currently have all 12 Anne of Green Gables books for 99 cents. Many of the classics are in public domain and can be downloaded for free. Our library has over 6000 titles available digitally. 

Considering the amount of money that I used to pay in late fees to the library (it practically had a separate line item in our budget!), I am happy to purchase new books for the kids occasionally just for fun. We recently went on a trip that required several hours of plane travel and waiting in airport lounges. Before we left I bought a few new books for the kids to read and didn't tell them until the morning our trip began. A fun surprise!

As always be careful to put proper guidelines in place about what can and can't be downloaded. I wish I could just let my 9 year old pick her own books, but in the same way I quickly skim books she picks at the library, I require that she ask permission before downloading any books from the library. There have been times that reading the summary and the reviews of a book I have had to say no. It's frustrating for both of us, but it's a responsibility that I take seriously. 

Since receiving the Kindles for Christmas, my oldest daughter downloaded the Kindle app for her iPod touch and uses that exclusively. This left a Kindle just sitting on the shelf (our 6 year old previously lost Kindle privileges after not taking care of it). For nearly a year I have had the Kindle app on my iPhone and have LOVED checking out digital books from the library. But I haven't loved the small print and the amount of memory the books took on my phone. So I have appropriated that Kindle for myself and use it all the time.

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I still love regular books. I love the way they feel and the smell and the sound of turning pages so I won't be getting rid of all of our books or not buying any new books! But as I started to buy our curriculum for this coming year (Illuminations, by Bright Ideas Press I was thrilled to discover that I could buy over 50% of the read alouds and read alones on Kindle, making our curriculum fit even better with the lifestyle of our family. 

How many of you have an e-reader? Do any of your children? Do you use it just for recreational reading or for school? 

(As an aside, when making purchases at Amazon, just click on over to Kendra's site and choose one of her links. She'll make a few dimes on each purchase and it helps to fund her ministry here at Preschoolers and Peace).

Thanks, Michele :)