Helping Our Kids Learn The Value Of Our Time and Money

I was having a conversation by text this afternoon with another homeschooling mom of several kids and we were both talking about how we felt our children didn't really, truly understand that our time is valuable and our money is hard-earned. No, we don't earn money for being their mother and teacher, but our time still has value and their daddies aren't just working for fun!

It's easy to feel taken for granted when a child wants you to take them all over creation or to be involved in an activity that will require multiple hours per week of driving time, without any consideration of the impact on me as their primary caregiver or on the family budget when a tank of gas in a 12 passenger van is more than even Ben Franklin can cover.

In an effort to combat a sense of entitlement that very quickly can overtake us, my husband and I have started explaining to the older kids a little bit more about our reasoning behind decisions that we make. Not because we want the children to feel guilty at all, but because we want them to understand that we're not just making decisions willy-nilly.

  • You want the family to get frozen yogurt tonight? That means we can't go out to eat with our friends after church next week. Make a choice.

  • You want me to drive you to your friend's house across town, which costs $15 in gas and two hours of my time? How can you help me get my work done so that I have the time available to do that.

  • You lost your math/piano/science book? That's the equivalent of the cost of a family meal at home. Better break out the piggy bank.

  • You want to take a family trip to Disneyland? That is outside our normal family budget. Are you prepared to drop all extracurricular activities for a year to help pay for it?

Obviously we don't let our kids make all the decisions, but we want them to be aware that everything has a cost - either the cost of time, money, or other resources. When we say yes to one thing (like getting frozen yogurt as a treat) we are saying no to something else. There are times, like with the request for Disneyland, when the child will quickly say no, it's not worth that sacrifice. But there are other times, like when wanting to see a friend across town, that they will work hard to help me so that I have free time available to help them.

There are still occasionally tears when someone doesn't follow through on their end of the deal and I have to say no, I'm sorry we can't do xyz. It's tough being the mom, but someone has to do it.

-Michele


Streamlining Your Kitchen: Summer Edition

This week Kendra and I are sharing how we streamline our kitchens for the summer, making it as simple as possible for us to squeeze every moment out of this carefree season that we can.

Where we live, summer comes early. The thermometer has already topped 100 degrees. The tomatoes are starting to ripen on the vines in our backyard. Berries are available for picking at local farms. And, like nectar from Heaven, white nectarines are available at the Farmer’s Market.

When it starts to heat up outside, my brain shuts off. I just don’t seem to function as well. Part of me is just worn out from a long year of go-go-go. The other part of me, well, the other part of me is worn out, too!

In order to really take advantage of this wonderful summer season, I simplify the work in the kitchen. I want to have time and energy to say YES! and enjoy a game of Phase 10 or run through the sprinklers outside with the kids.

DIY BREAKFASTS

With the sun rising earlier and earlier, my young ones wake earlier and earlier, despite my attempts to keep their room dark. When they wake at 6am there is no way I can make them wait until 7:30 to eat breakfast. This is when I pull out some pre-sliced fruit or a breakfast cookie or muffin**, occasionally a small bowl of dry cereal for them to eat to tide them over until we have second breakfast a little later. We keep these items in easy reach so the three year old can help himself once he's given permission, which gives me a few more minutes to clear my mind before going into full mommy mode.  **We do some batch baking every couple weeks in the summer to avoid heating up the house frequently.

Our main breakfast this summer will be prepared by our seven year old son, who I've been training for the last six months to make breakfast on his own. He's become quite proficient at pancakes, scrambled eggs, smoothies, oatmeal, and toast. This allows me time to get the little ones up for the day, change diapers, get a load of laundry started, whatever I might need to do. Sometimes it means I just sit outside and enjoy a cool morning with my cup of coffee. A while back I came to the conclusion that I need to take care of myself so I can take care of my family and delegating breakfast duty was one of the ways I deal with that.

QUICK LUNCHES

Summertime brings lots of opportunities to take impromptu trips - to the pool, to a friend's house, on a road trip. With a family our size, we don't travel without having food packed! Having lunches planned that are easy to pack up and go makes it that much easier for us to pack up and go! Things like ham and cheese tortilla roll-ups; the ever-popular PB&J; cheese and crackers; hummus and veggie sticks; fresh fruit; cheese slices; raw nuts. Nothing fancy, but definitely filling. Sometimes it's just so hot by noon we'll make smoothies. Again.

You'll notice that these are all things that my children can take care of on their own. We have a designated lunch helper, but any of my older kids could put together lunch for us to take on the road. It might have some interesting combinations, but we'll have something to eat!

BIG SALADS

When it's hot outside is when I'm the most tempted to want to go out to eat. The idea of cooking anything that will introduce heat into my house just makes me wilt. This is why we eat a lot of fresh, hearty salads in the summer.  It's a great way for us to eat lots of fresh veggies and keep the house cool(er) at the same time!

On Wednesday I'm going to show you the basic formula that I use for making salads (and that I'm teaching my kids to use), but for now here are a few of our tried and true favorite salad recipes:


Roasted Beets with Feta - I add several  big handful of fresh spinach to this to make it a main dish salad. I know beets aren't a favorite of everyone, but my family loves this! You can roast the beets on the barbecue.

Asian Chicken Salad - This is one of those salads that you can do whatever you want to it. It's really the dressing that makes it tasty. My kids love the crunchy noodles :) I often add cucumber because I like the extra crunch.

BLT Salad - Bacon. Need I say more?

How do you keep things simple in the kitchen during the summer? Tell us in the comments below!