"Early to Bed, Early to Rise" Isn't Scripture

From Katie:

Thank you for mentioning to me (a while back) that you have your smaller ones stay in bed until 8:00. I have an early riser who would get up at 5:45 sometimes and that would begin my day. I recently have been having the girls stay in their beds until 7:00 and we are all much happier and they are more rested. They even sleep longer now, at times, because they know they have to be there until 7:00. I set their alarm for 7:00 and when they come in to get me we're all a happy group (we used to be a grumpy group when they woke up particularly early).

I thought this would be a hard transition, but it's actually been so easy! I don't know how you do it, but I let them take some books to bed at night so they have something to do in the morning if they wake up early. Just wanted to thank you and I also thought that this might be a great topic for a blog because it has really improved my life.

Some time ago I just came to grips with the fact that I don’t do mornings well. I’ve heard all the rhetoric but I don’t buy it; I’ve heard the sermons, I’ve read the devotionals and the blogs that equate early mornings with better spirituality, but I just can’t agree. For me, seven hours of sleep most often happens between 1 a.m. and 8 a.m.

And so I have trained my little ones to stay in their rooms until at least 7:30. Many times they hop on my bed and cuddle with me and the nursing baby, other times they get going on their morning stuff. It works for us. Our days look like an early-riser’s day, the hours are just shifted a little later.

I think I learned this early. My mom used to put a cup of Cheerios in my crib and that bought her an extra 30 minutes in the morning

Most importantly, what works for you?
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Worry and Fret and Snippy Me

I posted late last night on an educational board I frequent. I asked for help because I have a difficult time being a kind mom when the pressure is on. Are you surprised? I hope not. Those who know me well know I struggle in this area and have asked for prayer.

Several things were mentioned. Jodi reminded me to take my own advice (thanks, Jodi!) and to re-evaluate my goals. Point well taken. MFS reminded me to both acknowledge the fact that my children are getting a superior education (and thus to relax) and to embrace the moment I am in. In other words, give the child I am with my full attention, give the laundry my best work when it is time to do the laundry, and throw myself into dinner preparation when it is necessary to take on that task, as well, but not to fret about the things I am not doing when I am not doing them! In other words, as she so succinctly put it, “One of my parenting mantras works well as everyday advice: Focus on the moment you're in. If you're in that moment, in that transaction with your child, whatever it is, the phone and the laundry have no place.”

Others agreed. And they’re right. As I re-evaluate the goals we have for each child and for ourselves individually and as a family, I will remember to take each thing as it comes.

Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.” Matthew 6:34

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Wedgits

Have you discovered Wedgits? I recently ordered a set for my preschooler and kindergartener to use during their table time. What I didn’t expect was that their older siblings would not be able to keep their hands off of them, either.

They love to build with them, I love that they are large and easy to find and store in a Rubbermaid box. No little itsy bitsy pieces we’re stepping on in the middle of the night. They don't break and you can toss them into the dishwasher if they get grimy. It’s a win-win toy!

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Define "Peace"

What is it about nursing a baby that makes one’s head fuzzy? I’ve wanted to write this post for some time, and finally tonight I knew I had to try and put two cohesive thoughts together. Bear with me.

When we named the site “Preschoolers and Peace” we knew that the word, the idea, the goal of peace was central to the ministry here. But what does it mean exactly to have peace in the midst of preschoolers?

To some extent I think that the measure and level of peace in a home is individual; some of us can handle more chaos than others. Your definition of peace may not be mine simply because you might be able to function well with more going on around you than I can.

Does peace mean that you will have a lot of time to yourself? Well, no. But by implementing routines and schedules that can be followed by everyone in the household, you may be able to have an hour in the middle of your day or several in the early morning or late evening in which you can accomplish several tasks uninterrupted (or nap ).

Does peace mean that your preschoolers will always happily obey you with quiet responses of “Yes, ma’am”? Um, no. But by setting standards and goals and by building a strong relationship day to day with them, you can capture their hearts and cause them to want to obey you, eventually. Their trust and your leadership will bring peace to your home.

Does peace mean that your home will be quiet, devoid of shouts and babble indicative of resident preschoolers? Nope. But again, we can put a plan into action that gets us to the goal of a functioning, peaceful home. I often look a little one in the eye and say, “Honey, I’m right here. You don’t need to shout”. Preschoolers, toddlers, babies, and yes- teenagers, can cause a lot of unrest by default. They are all busy, noisy, and require heaps and heaps of our time and energy, but I’m sure you know that.

Preschoolers and Peace exists to encourage you in your journey of home educating all ages, but particularly those little ones who can cause such an uproar if mom doesn’t have a plan. As long as God provides me with the time, energy, and resources, I will continue to post ideas and strategies that might be another tool in your quest for a household that functions well and peacefully.

Still, I hope you know and I often have to remind myself that peace, true peace, the peace that passes all understanding, is found in Christ alone. Begin and end there. Period.

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Organization for the Novice
Hello, I am having my 4th baby in 8 weeks and am realizing how much more organized I would like to be. I know I need master shopping lists for the stores I frequent, meal plans for the month with grocery lists, more routines in our home and more. Do you have any advice for a novice planner as to where to start? What are the routines/organization that are the most helpful to your day? Do you grocery shop every week on the same day? Have a day out a week or use an evening for those trips? Can you just come out to visit me in Indiana Amish country and help me get organized? :) I learn so much from your blog, thank you so much for all you do! Kathy

Hi Kathy-

You must be even closer now to holding that sweet baby in your arms! Hang in there; I know how exhausting those last weeks can be.

My husband and I were just discussing organization and how it comes naturally to some of us while others of us have to learn it from the ground up, so to speak. I was raised by an organized mom and a super tidy dad. All those years growing up in their home I heard things like, “Pick it up, don’t pass it up” and, “It takes more time to contemplate making the bed than to actually make it.” I watched my mom make lists and keep a Daytimer. My tendency toward organization, tidiness, and decluttering might not come naturally but it was certainly learned and is now a habit. If that’s not the case for you, then there are definitely helpful sites and books that can get you started:

Flylady

Organized Home

Organizing Plain and Simple: A Ready Reference Guide With Hundreds of Solutions to Your Everyday Clutter Challenges

Organizing From the Inside Out: The Foolproof System for Organizing Your Home, Your Office. and Your Life

Organizational systems are a great tool for achieving a household that is peaceful. However, I have had to learn to set aside some of my desire for a perfectly orderly home in light of reality. I’d love to have a laundry room that looks like Martha Stewart’s but there is a reason her laundry room looks like that: she does maybe three loads per week. On the rare occasions when all of the laundry is caught up here, it lasts only a few hours. At the end of the day, nine people toss their day’s laundry into the hampers and the cycle begins all over again. All that to say, be sure your expectations match your reality.

With a new baby coming, you have some areas that will continue to need your attention (i.e., meals, laundry) and others that can stand a little slack (i.e., school organization). First identify what you want to give your waning energy to right now- you mentioned meals and grocery shopping in your email so let’s start there.

I make a month’s worth of menus and shop once a week. Would that work for you right now? There have been some years when making a week’s menu at a time worked better for me. I can shop during the day because I have older children who can stay at home and work on their academics while I take a few of the younger ones with me. But when that wasn’t my reality, I often shopped at night. I enjoyed getting out by myself and having a quiet hour or two browsing the grocery aisles. If that would work for you in this season of your life, then by all means, do it.

Master lists are indispensable. Take an hour or so this week to make master lists for the stores you frequent, and arrange the lists in the order in which you shop the store. That will save you a ton of time, too.

My systems are always evolving because our lives aren’t static. Just today I was walking the baby out in the cry room during church and noticed a lunch schedule for the school where our church meets. It occurred to me that I need to revamp our breakfasts and lunches to be more scheduled- burritos on Monday, crackers and cheese on Tuesday, etc. so that we can move in and out of those meals without them being a big production each day. There are seasons where this approach might not be desirable for us, but right now I can see how it might be a blessing.

Just when I think we’ve got something all figured out, some aspect of our lives changes and we need to revamp. I have new chore cards to make this week because the seasons have changed and the kids are getting antsy. Without organizational systems in place, however, chaos reigns and peace is hard to come by.

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The Hula Hoop Revisited

Over a year ago I posted about using a hula hoop as a clear boundary for training a little one. It is one of those neat little tools that works for us when house-proofing a child. This was an idea I'd written about awhile ago, but on the day this photo was taken, we put it into practice while I made dinner. She was on the floor near me and she played with blocks and a doll.

I like the hula hoop because the parameters are clear. She has no problem understanding where she should be (inside the hoop). She was two at the time and she did quite well in the hula hoop for about 20 minutes.

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