More on Doing What You Love
I would love to hear more about what you wrote recently on planning something we love to do into our days. What would be some other ideas of fun things? I feel like I'm kind of in a slump right now. The only fun things I can think of are "me" things. Like I enjoy cooking, but I am not enjoying doing it with little helpers. I love painting, but it's not fun anymore when it's just about cleaning up messes. Any thoughts? -Phyllis Yes, Phyllis, I know what you mean. I've had to find a balance between teaching my kids to cook and shooing them out of the kitchen because I'd rather just cook by myself. While you see our cooking science days and the fun we're having, I'm not posting any pictures of me telling a child, "No, there really isn't anything you can do to help me tonight", although I say that often, too, while cooking dinner. There's obvious give and take here, and what one mom can handle another cannot. I happen to be a mom who does not enjoy sewing with all of these little people around; I can't stand having to make sure everything is put away after each and every time I sit down to sew. Of course if it's not put away, I run the risk of someone eating pins or something. I've also learned to enjoy activities I wouldn't necessarily choose to do when I get a moment to myself. Nature walks, picnic lunches, sitting on the back porch watching kids yell, "Mom!" while jumping on the trampoline or off the diving board. The trick, I think, is to figure out what you actually can do and enjoy while raising a young crew. One summer I was so engrossed in the autobiography of Barbara Bush that all I wanted to do was read. I declared our quiet reading hour to be a time where we all read in the same room but no one was allowed to talk. Sneaky, huh? Other ideas: -gardening (scale down and expect them to pull out viable plants thinking they're weeds) -letter writing (you write while they illustrate their own letters) -needlework (give them lacing cards and turn on an audiobook to keep their attention long enough for you to feel you've made progress on your project) -garage sales (can't really help you here- I never could figure out how to do this without keeping my kids in the car for long periods of time, but I'm certain at least one of my readers will comment with ideas :) ) -couponing (you cut the coupons, they cut out the other stuff, ie, pictures of Cinderella snow globes and china baby dolls) As for the stuff that really takes thought or concentration, save it until they're in bed. I write these posts typically sometime between 10 p.m. and 2 a.m., and major projects get done at night, too.
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Marvelous Monday- ENGLISH and GRAMMAR
I am a grammar fanatic. The truth is, I just love language, whether it's English, Spanish, French... I love the feel of words as they roll around my mouth and I have favorite words that sound like musical phrases to me. Conversely, incorrect grammar grates on my nerves like fingernails on a chalkboard. "I seen" instead of "I saw" is currently at the top of my grammar hit list. I am not, however, so blinded by my own love of language that I mistakenly believe that my children will embrace a grammar text with the same enjoyment I do. That's right-- I enjoy grammar texts. We began with Rod and Staff, going from Phonics to their English texts, but somewhere around second grade I decided to go with English for the Thoughtful Child instead. I can't really remember now why, but I know I learned of EFTTC from The Well-Trained Mind. I like both Rod and Staff and EFTTC, but each are quite different. EFTTC is gentle, slow, and not text-like while Rod and Staff English is gentle, rigorous, and definitely a text book format. Now, here's where personal philosophy comes into play. While I love grammar and all things word-related, I do still feel strongly that later is better for the majority of children. Certainly children need to have a basic understanding of punctuation, capitilization, and sentence structure. Those things can be introduced naturally through copywork and reading. English for the Thoughtful Child does this nicely as well, as do the Pathway Reader workbooks if you're inclined to use them with your early readers. My children have loved the Pathway series and I see good fruit in the simple, straight-forward daily exercises which cover vocabulary, word usage, spelling, phonics, and reading comprehension. We have used the wonderful series of Ruth Heller books in our Circle Time. I read a page or two depending on the flow of the text and everyone thinks of a sentence using the words we are studying (ie verbs, nouns, adjectives, etc.) You can see a sample of one of our son's funny drawings here. Eventually, a thorough and comprehensive study of grammar is necessary, and for that we have used Rod and Staff English, Grade 8, Preparing for Usefulness. If your student has never studied grammar formally, Rod and Staff English 8 will cover everything: parts of speech, punctuation, capitilization, sentence diagramming, note taking, outlining, paragraph construction, letter writing, proofreading, outlines, story writing, and poetry. There are copious exercises for practice and reviews every chapter. Our current 8th grader isn't a natural writer so I've had him using Rod and Staff English 8 this year. His compositions have improved in such a way that I am once again affirmed by our choice to use this text. As with my previous Marvelous Monday review on Math, I feel that Rod and Staff puts out timeless, thorough, and proven texts. We did use Daily Grams for several years, but I did not see that my children retained the information over the long haul. Again, this is where the idea that later is better plays a part; because an 8th grader in our home is writing so much for the Veritas Press Omnibus, they need to put all of this grammar study to good use. Daily Grams seemed to teach snippets out of context; there was simply a disconnect between the short daily exercises and the writing they were instructed to do for Omnibus. If you want to improve your own grammar and have a good laugh at the same time, try Spogg. And, of course, don't forget to visit Cheryl's blog to see her Marvelous Monday post, too!
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Drowning in Home Management, Part Three
So what does it look like to actually live out your top five "Rock List" activities each day? Obviously, it will look different in your home than it does in mine, and that's the way it should be. I'll share how our day looks, but please don't use it as a measuring stick. You and your family are unique! 1. Nurture, guard, protect, and grow my relationship with the Lord I've been using a wonderful tool to help me read through the entire Bible this year. Typically, I'll read the day's Psalm at the breakfast table, then read the rest when I get a quiet moment- during quiet hour or before bed. Worshiping, singing Scripture with the kids, praying throughout the day with my family and by myself are the ways in which I nurture my relationship with the Lord. 2. Nurture, guard, protect, and grow my relationship with my husband This one is tricky, because if you gauge its importance by the actual amount of time we spend together, it would seem to fall to the bottom of the pile. We're in the thick of raising children; the time spent doing all of the things that entails is just the reality of it all. We enjoy our children, and they have made our marriage stronger. I am so thankful for email and the internet, if only to be able to pop notes back and forth to each other all day long. Because my husband has patients and appointments, I don't like to call him at work. But I can shoot off an email and some days it feels as if we've had a daylong conversation. Our expectations for ourselves are different, too. When we were giddy college students we had exciting and romantic dates. Now, a trip by ourselves to Costco makes me really happy :) 3. Clothe our family 10 people. Lots of clothes. Twice a year I'm searching the end-of-season clearance sales (mostly online), twice a year I'm pulling out and putting away last season's clothes, and all year long I'm laundering, folding, ironing, mending, and passing it on. If I'm smart, I can do the thing I love (knitting) and make clothes for my family. This assures that knitting has a place on my Top Five. 4. Feed our family and keep our home sanitary (I realize these are really two things here, but they're both housekeeping related) Planning, couponing, shopping, cooking, cleaning it up. Decluttering, tackling a room at a time for deep cleaning, keeping the bathrooms and the kitchen clean. I do have housekeepers who bail me out, but when I didn't I devoted a half day a week to cleaning the house- usually Friday afternoons. 5. Educate our children Planning and executing everyone's education. This is the bulk of my day, but perhaps when there are no little people anymore we'll be able to get all our schoolwork done by noon or so. For now we have to spread things out in order to accomodate the needs of teenagers, babies, and everyone in between. If you have come to this series late, be sure to read Part One and Part Two. The comments on both posts are rich with discussion and encouragement.
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Drowning in Home Management, Part Two
So how are your Top Five lists coming along? We discussed this last time in Drowning in Home Management, Part One, and I'm hoping you had some time to quietly ponder what the five most important items on your agenda ought to be.  I loved reading your comments and lists and I am so glad I didn't post my five because yours varied so greatly.  What a creative God we have to make all of our homes so unique and wonderful. My five are: 1. Nurture, guard, protect, and grow my relationship with the Lord 2. Nurture, guard, protect, and grow my relationship with my husband 3. Clothe our family 4. Feed our family and keep our home sanitary (I realize these are really two things here, but they’re both housekeeping related) 5. Educate our children Obviously, many things can fall under each of those categories, but what was most important for me at the time was the ability to dismiss all of the things that don't fall under those categories.  And here's the bonus: when I was able to have something that wasn't under those categories (say, inviting another family over for pizza and games), it was a wonderful surprise. Had I expected to be able to do something off the list that never came to fruition, I would likely have been frustrated and disappointed.  My expectations most days match the reality of this season of my life. In my next and last post on Drowning in Home Management, I'll go through each of my five items and try to show you what they look like from day to day.  In the meantime, keep making those lists and don't forget to share them with us!
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Marvelous Monday- LITERATURE

Everybody Loves a Great Book

I know I just talked your ears off last Marvelous Monday when we covered history, so I promise I won't be quite so chatty this time. It sounds so nice and thoughtful of me, but really the truth is that I don't have terribly a lot to write about literature curricula because I'm one of those odd types who believes you should just READ. Forget the snippets chosen by some so-called expert and regurgitated with insipid questions in a literature text. Pick up a good book and read to your kids. Then make lists of books you want them to read by the time they leave your home and have them READ. The list I've used most over the years when deciding on good literature for our home is The 1,000 Good Books List. I also scan the Veritas catalog and the Sonlight catalog: Veritas for its solid classic picks and Sonlight for its unique Christian content, such as missionary biographies and the like. Our junior highers and high schoolers utilize the Veritas Press Omnibus curriculum, and through that they get a deep and wide discussion of literature. But before then, we simply read. Don't forget to hop on over to Cheryl's blog to see what she has to say about literature, too!
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Drowning in Home Management, Part One
I struggle desperately with balancing everything that must be done. I have yet to figure out how to give my oldest the help and teaching he needs for school while teaching my 5 yr old to read, etc. All this while 2 little ones run around. Not to even mention the laundry, cooking, cleaning, and housework that may or may not get done. -RachelMy first thought when I read your list: “housework, paperwork, and homeschooling” was: “what housework? what paperwork? what homeschooling?” currently we’re not getting to *any* of those things. :) well, okay- a bit of housework and the necessary paperwork, but that’s IT. -StacyHope you’re on your feet again very soon! And yes, I am one of those drowning in housework, homeschooling, etc. No family nearby, friends all in the same life stage as me (young kiddos), so whatever wisdom you can offer will be appreciated. -ChristineI recently read your article from 2006 I think, entitled Put Your Life in a Binder. I am attempting to do this but it is a big task. Any tips on how to get it done? -Brandi ♥ Me too.  No, really.  I do have help, and yet in this season with a high schooler, a junior higher for whom I've begun to plan high school, three elementary students, a kindergartner, a toddler, and a baby, I am drowning in home management, too. So let's all take a deep breath and try to gain perspective. First of all, define what your "Rock List" should be. Remember that old Sunday School illustration where you fill a jar with sand (all of the non-essential activities of life), then try to fit in the rocks (all of the essential activities)?  The rocks don't fit that way.  But if you reverse the order- rocks, then sand- everything fits just perfectly. My wiser-than-I-am friend Colleen once asked me to define my "Rock List"; that is, the essential activities that have to be done daily.  I made a massive list of items that I had on my plate, big and small, and then began to put each item into the "Rock" column or the "Sand" column.  While this was a helpful exercise that saved my dwindling sanity that year, everything was about to come crashing down and demand redefinition... I had a miscarriage. I was pregnant two months later.  I had a baby.  I was pregnant five months later.  I had that baby.  I was in the PICU with him seven weeks later.  And the Rock List suddenly became a burden. I was relaying my waves of overwhelmment (I know. It's not a word, but I would make it one if I could) to my wiser-than-I-am friend Cheryl who said, "What are the top five non-negotiable activities of your life?"  Five.  That's it. Can you define your top five non-negotiable activities? I am reluctant to even tell you mine, because I really want you to think this through and pray over it without any outside influence.  Your top five non-negotiables should be between you and the Lord. In Drowning in Home Management, Part Two, I'll touch on each aspect of home management and how I am currently tackling/juggling these things in our home.  But I really, really, really want you to make that Top Five list before you read about what we do here, because my home isn't yours, and I don't have the corner on that market! ♥ I might be pursuaded to list my Top Five in the comments, but not until some time has passed so you can go before the Lord on this one :)
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