Annie's Circle Time
Hey Kendra- I wanted to email and thank you for your blogging, and all the encouragement and the practical advice you share.  I've been meaning to email for quite some time, but part of July, all of August and even some of September was the nasty morning sickness.  I felt better in September and did some serious catching up. I read through your postings about Circle Time and it sounds like a great way way to add in some things we’ve not been doing (like singing hymns, reading the Bible together, and praying. . . yikes! the very basics!) and be a little more formal about a few things we’ve been enjoying (Five In A Row, Story of the World). One very nice and unexpected thing that happened as I was sorting through materials and planning the school year was that I realized how much I truly love teaching my children!  As I was ordering books that I’d read with my older children, to read with my younger child, and the materials I will be using with my older children, I found myself in tears remembering all the happy memories and anticipating making new ones! :) I intended to email last week with our Circle Time order. . . I figure I need to keep it to about an hour.  Our children are 7, nearly 5, and 2,  so most of this will  go well (I hope!)
  • Calendar
  • Weather
  • Pledges (American flag pledge, Alaska flag song, Christian flag pledge)-- one per day
  • Silly Song of the Day-- one child picks each day
  • Hymn of the Week (going sequentially through our church's hymnal)-- watch on youtube
  • Prayer
And now for the hard part of this email.  The reason I did not email as planned last week (or start school on 10/5 as I had also planned) was that I miscarried early Sunday morning (10/4.) I was about 16 weeks and had NO idea before it happened.  Our midwife came over to be with us at the time and that was so helpful.  Our baby was a boy, and we named him Shelomith (meaning peaceful.)  I am recovering physically fairly well. Emotionally, it's been (and will be) hard.   I think it would be helpful to get back into our routine, so I am hoping to start Circle Time tomorrow, and gradually bring on the other topics I'd planned. I wanted to ask you to pray for me and my family as we make this horrible transition. Thank you again. annie ♥ Please pray for Annie and her family as they recover from their loss. ~Kendra
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Blue Yonder Books for Circle Time
I'm in serious love with these terrific activity/recipe/craft books from Blue Yonder Ranch.  They're a perfect addition to Circle Time plans, and they are delightful to look at and explore together. As I was walking out to get the mail last week, I noticed huge toadstools growing under the redwoods by the pond.  I thought it would be so homeschooly of me to take my kids out there to see them, but I really don't know a thing about mushrooms so wasn't sure what I'd tell the kids, other than the obligatory "Don't eat them!" speech. Lo and behold Blue Yonder Ranch's Autumn I Book of Days has a lovely spread about mushrooms and what to do with them; I couldn't believe what perfect timing this was!

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Little Boys Who Don't Love School
My oldest son has been attending a state kindergarten (equivalent to your preschool I think?) this year, but we pulled him out at the end of third term. I have been doing some Math and Phonics with him, but the phonics are a real struggle – not for him to understand, but to get him to do! He just doesn’t like it! He loves for me to read him books, and he always has a book nearby for himself to look at. He knows all of his letters and many of the sounds they make, but isn’t interested in learning to put them together into words. He can read a couple of words, but they have been learnt by sight (his name and the names of his siblings for example). He likes to draw and write labels on his work – asking us how to spell something or write it down for him to copy. He also enjoys the tracer pages I print off in cursive for him, but hates the writing in his phonics book (ball and stick). He doesn’t like cursive copy work though saying “it’s too hard”. Should I bother with the official phonics for the rest of this year? Is it okay to stick with tracer pages for writing at this stage rather than copy work? I don’t want to take the enjoyment out of learning to read, but rather cultivate a love of it. I don’t even know if this makes sense, but if it does to you in any way, I’d love to hear your input! Thanks! ~Amanda ♥ Amanda- There are so many differing opinions swirling around out there, but just based on my experience and the wisdom of others, I would say to relax and go slowly.  Most boys have "pencil allergies" which keep them from wanting to sit and "do school".  In the long run, delaying seat work won't make your son a bad reader or poor speller, but it might just keep him from getting bored with schoolwork and turned off by academics. I'd go about phonics in the most relaxed way possible. In my experience, teaching a child to read is one of those things that can either go very slowly and painfully if the child isn't ready, or it can go quickly and easily if the child is ready.  You need to decide if it's worth it to you to drag that little boy along through phonics for weeks (months? years?) on end, or to wait until the proverbial light bulb turns on and he's ready to take it all in and become a reader. That's not to say you shouldn't require anything of him. There are just more delightful and interesting ways to go about learning phonics and handwriting skills.  We play a lot of verbal rhyming games ("cat, sat, bat, mat, fat, etc."), point out the sounds of letters, run our fingers under words so a young (two-year-old) child can see that we are following the letters from left to right when we read, and spell simple words from every day life (STOP on the stop sign). We also like the Leap Frog Letter Factory DVDs, but they only teach one sound per letter, which I don't love.  I still let my little guys watch them and learn the sounds, but I've found that when I do get down to the business of teaching them the phonograms, I have to explain that some of the letters actually make more than one sound each.  You can hear the phonograms here. Your little guy is awfully young for copywork, unless it's just a word or two or the things he's asked you to write for him to copy.  I'd relax about that, too.  I wouldn't ignore his handwriting altogether as I've found it's difficult for them to break bad habits, but I wouldn't make it a hill to die on.  As long as our children's handwriting is legible, we're satisfied.  We've found that two of them have truly beautiful handwriting because they're rather artistic kids, but the others- not so much. Hope that's helpful- Kendra
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When Little Siblings Squabble
Hi Kendra- Just want you to know that I have appreciated your blog and wisdom more than I can tell you.  Thank you for all the time you put into it! Being a mother of 8 I am sure that you have children who don't get along occasionally, and I am wondering how you handle this.  I have a 6 year old daughter who is a peacemaker (usually) and a terrific help to me and a newborn.  I also have 2 boys age 4.5  (Daniel) and almost 2 (Sam) who fight everyday.  Somedays all day long.  Of course, this makes homeschool difficult.  But more than that, I am at the end of my rope.  I don't know how to help them get along.  I have talked to them (at least Damiel) about what God desires from them.  We have prayed together.  We have disciplined in various ways.  Both of the boys are guilty, each enjoying provoking the other.  Daniel often gets angry about the discipline, and to be honest, so do I.  I am praying for God to help me.  Sam, though just as ornery, will usually try to reconcile with his brother by giving him a hug. I know I can manipulate the situation in different ways to help them get along better, but we wouldn't really be dealing with the issue.  I want to help them get along and really love one another.  I know they do love each other. If Sam is hurt he wants Daniel, or if I leave the house, then Sam clings to Daniel and the Daniel truly comforts him.  So, I am sure this is all normal stuff.  I know it will eventually (hopefully) pass.   I just want to handle it well, and I am at a loss!  Any ideas? Thanks again, And God bless you and your family, MerriHi Merri- Sibling squabbles are so tricky, but because yours are so young, they’re even trickier.  Hard to really speak to their hearts at those ages, so I think you need to communicate your expectations by your actions. First of all, I would not let them out of my sight.  Don’t put them in a room or a play situation by themselves until they’re mature enough to handle it.  In this way, you are “tomato-staking” them , and discipling them.  If they have a falling out, you are right there to correct and show them the right way to handle the conflict. Secondly, I would make sure they have some time apart from one another each day.  If they are no longer napping, or even if they are, separate them for naptime or a quiet hour.  Use a little reverse psychology and tell them they aren’t allowed to see or talk to each other for the whole time, but you'll let them know when they get to play together again.  You’ll get a break, they’ll get a break, and absence makes the heart grow fonder ;) Blessings- Kendra
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Fisher Price Stack and Roll: One of Our Favorite Toys

 

Right before we went on vacation, I bought a set of these Fisher Price Stack and Roll Cups, thinking they'd be a nice way to entertain our two little guys while in the rental house.  They didn't disappoint, and in fact they even gained the attention of everyone older than the two littlest.

The cups nest into one another when inverted, click and stack together when right side up, can be rearranged, filled with little items, counted, and rolled.  At such a reasonable price, they've been a winner here, and they get used every single day.

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Chore Store!
Over the years we've gone back and forth, forth and back about allowance and chores.  Should we offer payment for jobs done?  Should we give allowances so the kids can learn to manage their spending?  We always came back to the idea that our children are members of our family, and so certain chores are expected simply because they're part of the team.  We also want them to leave our home with all kinds of skills- no paying some girl at college to do their laundry ;) Recently, however, the kids' piano teacher instituted a point system by which her students could earn points for practicing, attending recitals and concerts, and even for good behavior during a lesson.  At a designated time, she would open her "store" and allow them to spend their points on fun things- pencils, stickers, etc. This got me thinking.  My kids could use a little motivation.  I think we've been very successful at communicating their responsibility in our home, so perhaps having something fun to strive for would just be a nice little motivator as the weeks roll by. I started by taking their daily responsibilities and attaching a point value to each chore: 1 Point Morning Stuff Breakfast Prep Each Chore = 1 Point Zones Completed 2 Points All morning stuff and chores completed each week = 2 bonus points A Good Attitude, calculated weekly 5 Points Quietly working on a reorganization project (game cabinets, puzzle cabinet, schoolroom, garage cabinets, costumes, armoire) without being asked. Surprise inspections- everything from closets to school shelves to bathroom drawers.

The chore point tally sheet.  Very primitive.  Needs revamping.

There were also some bad habits established that have bugged me for years, so I thought I could seize the opportunity to use our Chore Store point system to fix the problem.  Some people around here think I won't notice when they drop things on top of the dryer on their way to the school room instead of putting said things away in the school room where they belong.  Ahem.  Others have told me their chores are completed when, indeed, they are not.  Can you believe it? The following result in a loss of points: Not putting things away where they belong (Legos in the piano drawers, stuff dumped on the dryer instead of put away in the schoolroom, etc.)  -2 Points Lying about chores being done results in a complete loss of all points! So far, Chore Store is going really well.  I keep a tally sheet and we check off accomplishments every day or two at breakfast, and the kids are eager to hear their totals.  I haven't set a time for the opening of Chore Store, but I did tell them that nothing in the store will be under 100 points.  I won't open it until everyone can purchase something. Even my oldest guys who have fewer chores than everyone else are interested in earning more points for themselves.  I lured them into participation with the promise of movie tickets and gift cards.  When the stack of preschool DVDs needed to be reorganized, and lost discs found, guess who volunteered?

The big guys are so great with the little guys.  I toss out bonus points for the kindnesses like these.

I still ask, grab, call out to, and assign children tasks all day long without the promise of points.  I'm watching to see if attitudes turn greedy, but so far nothing has really changed except for a sudden eagerness to do chores every day.  Works for me!

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