What our Homeschool Really Looks Like

Our life isn't always pretty.  In fact, it's messy, dirty, disorganized in places, and noisy.  My hair is low on the priority list unless we're headed out the door, and Mighty Joe's blanket often needs a bath.  Actually, Mighty Joe often needs a bath :)

What School Really Looks Like in the Fletcher Home

Mighty Joe likes to fuss and I like to give in

In fact, he rarely sits still but I just keep talking (See?  Bad hair day.)

...and then big brother has to get in on the action

Please, somebody tell me you're tripping over IKEA stepstools, gouging the bottom of your feet on Legos, and trying to be heard above the din, too!

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How Can Sunday Be Restful With Little Ones?

Just days after our sweet seventh was born

I wondered if you had anything to share about what you do to make Sundays different than the rest of the week when there is still so much to do for little kids. ~Alicia Hi Alicia- I completely understand where you're coming from.  I remember back about ten years ago when I would chafe any time someone mentioned the idea of a restful Sunday.  Restful?  For whom? Ultimately, I had to make a choice. I could be grumpy and hold a grudge, or I could rearrange the way I was going about Sundays and recognize that they could be different and less stressful than the other days of the week, and in that, they could be restful. There are definitely steps I took to make Sunday a more peaceful day.  First, I make sure that all of the clothing, shoes, and hair accessories that I am responsible for are taken care of by Saturday night. I don't want to have to run around Sunday morning trying to find the baby's shoes. We have the same thing for breakfast every single Sunday morning. Bagels with cream cheese, toasted on a sheet pan in the oven all at once.  Paper plates.  Minimal mess. We made the choice after much frustration, discipline issues arising from unrealistic (for us) standards at church, and over-tired little people in need of a nap to not participate in the church potluck after four hours of service and Sunday School.  Lunch at home after church is always simple. Cheese, crackers, salami, fruit.  Sandwiches.  Leftovers.  When we had four under six-years-old, we stopped at Carl's Jr because it was on the way home. Little ones go down for naps, and sometimes we big ones do, too.  I will not do laundry.  I might pick up things here or there, but if it feels like work, I don't do it.  I will, however, do something I enjoy, even if someone else might find it unappealing; gardening, couponing, reading, working out, baking. Dinner is simple, too. Pancakes, smoothies in the summer, burgers on the grill, leftovers, something from the freezer (tonight it was fajitas, quickly stir fried and served with Spanish rice, salsa, chips, etc.)  My friend Cheryl has a "clean-out-the-fridge" dinner every Sunday night, or an "every-man-for-himself" approach.  I grew up in a home where we had pizza every Sunday night.  Pizza and 60 Minutes :) Watch a video together, listen to a book on tape, read aloud, play a game (my middle kids are really into Pit these days), take a bubble bath.  Put little ones down. I admit that I do spend about an hour every Sunday evening preparing for the week.  But that's for sanity's sake on Monday morning, and that is entirely worth it to me. Helpful?
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Circle Time Resources We've Been Enjoying Lately
Currently, our Circle Time is minimal.  By minimal I mean almost not worthy of it's own separate title because it's almost not even worth mentioning.  Does that make you feel better?  Seasons come and go, and this season has me needing to focus on other areas in order to play catch up from three weeks in the hospital as well as balance a three-year-old and a one-year-old. We have a short time in the Word and prayer right after we finish breakfast, and I am very fond of the books we're using to coincide with our Psalm reading. The first is My Brother's Keeper: Letters to a Younger Brother on the Virtues and Vices, Duties and Dangers of Youth.  Lots of discussion with this one, and we are enjoying it because each letter is brief, focused, and interesting.  I'd say it is really suited for my children in the 8-year-old to high school range.  If CBD is out of stock, try Grace and Truth.



The other book we're using right now is 365 Manners Kids Should Know. The drawback to this book is that it's written to the adult reader about what we should be teaching our kids, but I am pretty easily able to just pick it up and read it to my kids each day.  We discuss the topic (yesterday was about boys holding doors open for girls and girls holding doors open for anyone in need) and then I often have them role play a scenario of bad and good manners. We pray, we laugh, we practice our patience with the little ones, and then we get on with the day.
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When Mama Has Limited Energy
I have recently been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I have four children 8 and under. There are days that my energy level and pain are quite bad and I really struggle through school. I don’t think that putting them in school is the answer. I know you can understand from your difficult pregnancies to your kidney stones. What do you do on those really bad days? More importantly what did you do on those days when the oldest was only 8? -Kimm I have lupus (SLE) and fibromyalgia, four children (8, 4, 2.5 today and just turned 1, still nursing) and a deployed husband (gone 11 months with 4 to go). I feel I have a pretty decent handle on the housework thanks to FlyLady’s book (website was too crazy for me!), but the other aspects of homeschooling, trying to eat and feed the kids healthy, etc..., are just overwhelming me right now. I see so many areas where I’m lacking as a mom/teacher, primarily in character building/Christian training, because it seems like it’s just a struggle to make it through each day with the kids fed and schoolwork done, let alone adding anything. -Catherine ♥ Kimm and Catherine asked these questions a long while ago, which is testimony to the fact that I can't do everything, either.  And then some! Yes, I do have pregnancies with long bouts of illness and no energy.  I also have spent a fair share of my time with three of my children in the hospital over the past eighteen months.  I have ideas to share, but I find it is very hard to practice what I preach.  It takes the encouragement of Scripture, the support of friends, and the patient reminders of my husband, who is also my biggest cheerleader. Turning the topic on its ear for just a bit here, please hear me-- if you have a friend who is struggling because of a physical ailment, pregnancy, a hospitalized child (particularly those who spend exorbitant amounts of time there with sick kids), a difficult marriage, or a host of other situations that put an irregular strain on homeschooling, would you please take the time to email them and encourage them?  Having friends and sisters do this for me was often the difference between lifting my eyes to heaven for strength and falling apart in utter despair. That said, I think it's easy to forget that classroom teachers go through the same things. I had two pregnant teachers in high school, one whose baby was stillborn.  It was a rocky year, to say the least.  She did her best, and we did fine, but I'm sure she felt that she wasn't the best teacher she could have been, either. In second grade I had a teacher who was going through a nasty divorce plus the illness of her father, and she relieved her stress by throwing erasers at us and dumping our desks over.  See?  It could be worse. So what are some practical things you can do to make schooling at home a reality even through the tough times? I've pinpointed strategies we have in place in our home, but I'd love for others to chime in so that you can glean lots of ideas. 1. Planning. There is nothing like a well-planned school year, period.  With spring break and then summer coming our way shortly, I'd encourage you to start jotting down what each child will be doing next school year and get to planning.  I've written about mega-school-planning before hereThere's more here. 2. Workboxes or Workfiles. Quite simply, the schooling of my six-year-old continued while I was in the hospital with our eight-year-old only because I had pre-filled her workfile.  I cannot say enough about this approach for the youngest students in our home.  Dana has done essentially the same thing, but in a binder. 3. Identify the most important things to accomplish each day. For me, laundry, meals, and schoolwork are what I can handle during four months of morning sickness.  Everything else goes on the back burner. 4. Even so, minimize the commitment. That means that children will have to pitch in and help with laundry, dinner will be simple, and school will be on autopilot.  This is not the time for field trips, unless you need a gulp of fresh air and a nature walk fits the bill. 5. Ask for help. And so, if all I'm doing are laundry, meals, and school, who's cleaning the toilets?  Again, this is where a little forethought can be helpful.  I'm kinda into clean toilets.  And somewhere along the line my husband saw me struggling to mop the kitchen floor while hugely pregnant and decided he'd take over the job.  Love that man!  But sometimes people don't see our needs and so we simply need to ask. 6. Utilize the incredible resources on the home education market. Including online classes.  Boy howdy, when our firstborn took his first online class I about jumped through the ceiling with joy.  I wasn't overseeing his assignments.  I wasn't the one who gave him a B on his final.  Lovely!  Off the top of my head, there's Veritas Press Scholars Academy, Memoria Press Online Courses, Schola Tutorials, Constitutional Law for Enlightened Citizens (the first course my son took, and we were so impressed), and local junior college online courses that have also been terrific for us. Switched On Schoolhouse is a huge help to many families.  So is Robinson Curriculum.  I take advantage of audio courses that we all listen to, as well as audiobooks. 7. Lastly, remove the pressure on yourself. There is no right way to homeschool for every family.  Ask the Lord and your husband what the goals should be for your children, and then steadily work toward them.
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What is Circle Time?
Hi! I was wondering if you would mind expounding some on the Circle Time that you do with you kids. I remember reading a post on this previously at your site and would love to start some of this with my oldest this fall (she’ll be 4) and need a little more direction. Any tips where to start and what to work on with her? And suggestions for scripture memorization? That’s an area that I struggle with so I need all the help I can get since I want to do it along with her. Thank you so much! Stephanie ♥ Stephanie- Starting Circle Time (or whatever you decide to call it) now is a great idea. It has been a part of our lives for so long now that I doubt even the 16-year-old can remember our days without it, although he seldom joins us anymore. Still, on the days he is with us, he participates by leading some of what we do, reading aloud, or quizzing the littlest ones on their catechism. You asked for tips on where to start, so let’s begin there. The first thing you want to do is to determine what it is you want to include in your Circle Time. This always fluctuates for us, meaning that there are seasons when Circle Time includes just the essentials like devotions, Scripture memory, and prayer, and other seasons when Circle Time is a long drawn-out session filled with singing, reading, and lots of laughter.
Ideas for Circle Time: Psalm or Proverb of the day- read one chapter a day. Let the children illustrate something from the passage that stands out to them. Prayer- my kids are particularly fond of “popcorn” prayer, where we go around the room with each person sharing one thing in prayer at a time. We use the acronym ACTS (Adoration, Confession, Thanksgiving, Supplication) as our guide; the first person calls out one attribute of God in adoration to Him, then the next person, etc. Then the first person begins again by confessing a sin, and we move on around until the prayer is finished. Devotional- Books we’ve enjoyed over the years: My ABC Bible Verses, Discovering Jesus in Genesis, Discovering Jesus in Exodus, With the Children on Sundays, and the How God Used... series. Songs- We have worked on one hymn at a time, or our favorite hymns with everyone choosing one, or worship choruses we all like, etc. Sometimes I play the piano, sometimes one of the boys plays his guitar, sometimes we just get a little silly and sing at the top of our lungs. Catechism Review- No, we’re not Catholic. Historically, Protestants have used confessions to teach the truths of Scripture in a systematic way to their children and themselves, and we use the Westminster Confession in our home. The children’s catechism goes like this: Q. Who made you? A. God Q. What else did God make? A. God made all things. Q. Why did God make you and all things? A. For His own glory. Q. Why ought you to glorify God? A. Because He made me and takes care of me. If you’re not familiar with the different Protestant confessions, take a look at this site. Special Topic- From time to time we see areas in our lives that need attention. I’ll add some time to focus on those areas and hope to see a little progress. Currently we’re working on manners. Memory Work- Which verses or passages do you want your children to have committed to memory by the time they leave your home? Sit down and make a list sometime and then begin to memorize together. Competitions and rewards always motivate us when we get lazy. I recently purchased an audio Bible on MP3 and now we listen to passages over and over again to commit them to memory. Cards- We like the variety that flash cards give us. You can search the web for photos of famous landmarks to print out, make cards for the Greek alphabet, Roman numerals, sign language, U.S. Presidents, books of the Bible, and practically anything else you can think of that would be worth memorizing. ♥ I hope this gives you some good ideas to start with. Coming on Wednesday-- a contest to win a copy of my eBook all about Circle Time, Circle Time: Plan the Best Part of Your Day!
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Amy's Butter Crescents
I know you can buy a can of whack crescents (the kind you whack on the counter ;) ), but these are really, really worth the little bit of effort.  Plus, my hubby's food allergies keep him from eating anything that has to be whacked on a counter before baking.  This recipe more than makes up for the inconvenience, though. From my friend Amy, who is expecting her number 8!

Amy's Butter Crescents

Makes 16 rolls.

1/2 cup milk 1/2 cup butter 1/3 cup sugar 1/2 teaspoon salt 2 1/4 Tablespoon yeast 1/2 cup warm water 1 egg 4 cups all purpose flour In a saucepan, heat milk until bubbles appear around the edges of the pan. Add butter, sugar, and salt, and stir off heat until combined. Cool to lukewarm. Dissolve yeast in warm water; let stand until foamy. Beat yeast and egg into milk mixture. Mix in 2 cups of flour until thick. Mix enough flour until dough pulls away from sides of pan. Knead very gently until smooth and elastic, 2-3 minutes. Place dough in a large greased bowl and cover loosely. Let rise 1 hour, then punch down and divide in two. Let divided dough rest 10 minutes. Roll dough into an circle and then cut (like a pizza) into 8 wedges. Roll up from the wide edge first, then form into a crescent. Repeat with remaining dough. Cover rolls and let them rise in a warm place for 30 minutes. Bake at 350° for 12 minutes.

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