Balancing Academics and Life: Wisdom from Elizabeth
I've written several times about one of my favorite authors/bloggers/internet mentors, Elizabeth Foss. I just soak in her blog posts, hoping to absorb her gentle spirit and her deep devotion to the Savior. I am not a Catholic mom, but I have learned so much from Catholic moms like Elizabeth and Holly Pierlot about being purposeful in our prayer lives and devotions. I wrote to Elizabeth several years ago, and am not only pleased that she responded last week, I am encouraged that I'm not the only blogger who finds it difficult to respond to emails in a timely manner!  Can we just redefine "timely" to mean "within a couple of years?" I'd feel so much better. :) Anyway, Elizabeth answered my question,  "How do you think moms can better maintain a balance between academic excellence and the nurturing of relationships with their children?  Are they mutually exclusive?" The answer is good.  Good good. This is why I love reading Elizabeth's blog. ♥ Kendra
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Making Banana Bread and Memories
I'm so excited to share this post with you, written by Gabe Harder. Gabe has a great spirit about having her little ones in the kitchen with her, and just think of how she's working herself out of a job! Those of you reading this in a reader will want to click through to see Gabe's adorable children! ♥ Cooking and baking are a big deal in our home.  I like to bake, and my kids have always spent quite a bit of time in the kitchen with me learning and "helping."  The extra time it took to have them there with me is really starting to pay off now that my older kids (10-year-old girl and 8-year-old and 7-year-old boys) are able to do quite a bit in the kitchen on their own.  My younger kids have the same desire to be in the kitchen helping, so recently I came up with the idea of having them make banana bread on their own.   This went so well that I plan to have them continue taking turns doing this once a week!

This is the recipe I used.  I like that it uses the apple sauce instead of oil.  I just picked up some of the individual sized cups of apple sauce, making this very easy for the little ones to handle.  I also use part whole wheat flour, but it works just fine using all white flour.  I've also cut the sugar in half from what the original recipe called for. Banana Bread Mix well in large bowl: 1 cup applesauce 1 cup sugar 4 bananas (mashed) 4 Tablespoons milk 4 eggs Mix in a separate bowl: 2 cups whole wheat pastry flour (from soft white wheat) 1 1/2 cups all purpose flour 1 teaspoon baking soda 3 teaspoons baking powder 2 teaspoons salt 2 teaspoons nutmeg (or just sprinkle a bunch in) Add flour mix to liquid mix, and mix well.  Pour into greased and floured loaf pan (this makes one large loaf or two medium loaves). Bake at 350°F for about 50 minutes.  It is done when a toothpick inserted comes out clean. The night before I measure out the dry ingredients.  The flour goes into one container, sugar in another, and baking soda/powder and salt into yet another small container.

My 2 1/2-year-old (who thinks she must be just about 10 like her big sister) was the first to try this.  I just sat her down at our little table by the kitchen (also where we do school) with a large bowl, measuring spoons, measuring cup, and the dry ingredients (minus the sugar) and let her have fun!  She had so much fun measuring and stirring, but she also took it very seriously.  She was making lunch for her family! *I also let her shake in a bunch of nutmeg from the spice container. She thought that was fun.

After she had mixed all of that up I had her start on a new bowl for the liquids.  She measured and mixed the sugar and apple sauce together.  I mashed up the bananas for her, and I also added the milk and eggs for her.  She mixed the flour into the liquids, though she did need a little bit of help.  An older sibling stepped in to help her with greasing the pan and pouring the batter in the pan.  I took care of putting it in the oven.

The next week my 5-year-old had his turn.  He did a great job, and I even let him crack the eggs on his own.  He had not done this before, but I knew he had been watching me and his older siblings.  He did a great job making sure that no shell went into the batter and keeping the area clean, even remembering to wash his hands after handling raw eggs.  He also needed some help with the last steps, but he was a bit more hands on.

Clean up is an important part of any project around our house, but I also try to keep realistic expectations.  My 2 1/2 year old picked up the garbage from the apple sauce and bananas and also took a few dishes into the kitchen.  My 5 year old took care of most of the clean up, but the table did need to be wiped down again after he was done. ;)

This activity kept each of my kids busy for a while (which is always GREAT!), but they were in the same area that the rest of us were working.  More importantly this gave them a head start on learning some cooking skills and an opportunity for each of them to serve their family.  They were each so excited as I took their loaf out of the oven and even more so as we sat down to lunch complimenting them on the good job they had done making lunch for us!  This is a great way to help little ones feel like they are contributing to the family and that they are wanted and needed (because they ARE!).  Little ones want to help, and so far I've found that by fostering that desire they continue in that attitude for years to come!

*this can also be done with a mix if you don't have time to measure things out ahead of time. ~Gabe Harder
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Confession Sunday
I'm going to let you in on a little secret: my house is a mess .  We tore our kitchen out last week, we're cooking in the laundry room, we're eating in the school room, and everything else is scattered.

We used to eat right here...

It's also almond harvest. Typically, the dust is an inch deep over everything from September to November because the almond trees are shaken.  A year's worth of dust goes flying off those trees and onto everything.  Everything!

Living in the country is pretty and spacious, but Oh! The almond dust!

So, construction dust, almond dust, displacement, and ten generally messy people means my house will not be featured in Better Homes and Gardens anytime soon.

I struggle with this. I like "a place for everything and everything in its place".  I like organization and cleanliness, I like living in a tidy environment and I don't like camping, even in my own house.  I also like how people in catalogs live.  Oh wait! That's right- there are no people living in those rooms in catalogs.  They're completely staged.

I remember once hearing Regis Philbin talking about a photo shoot done in his home for a shelter magazine.  He said he arrived home from work and didn't recognize the place.  "Where did these flowers come from?  In the history of my life we've never had a flower arrangement there".  I think he was exaggerating a tad about not recognizing his home, but you get my drift.

I'm increasingly irritated by picture-perfect views of life with preschoolers. There's peace in our home (generally), and order and routine, but there is never perfection. If ever you've been made to feel like somehow you can't measure up to what's going on in my home, then I have failed in my mission.  We can all be encouraged to improve areas that need improving, and to keep things tidy and clean.  But if perfection or a catalog photo is your goal, maybe it's time to rethink your goals.

Two people in this house live in this room.  I will refrain from naming them (Hayden and Nate).

I have been blessed with sisters-in-law who have gone before me in this child-rearing endeavor.  I recently asked one of them what her philosophy was regarding her kids keeping their rooms clean.  She said, "I knew that when they left our home, they were going to do whatever they wanted in their room/dorm/house anyway, and it was not a hill I was choosing to die on".  True.  I don't like to die on hills every single day.  And yet, there is a common courtesy that needs to be learned.  They could do a lot more picking up after themselves and I could do a lot less yelling in frustration.  All in all, it's still not a hill I want to die on.

A snapshot of the living room, 9/26/2010

Let's briefly go over the above photo, just for humor's sake. That's a snow jacket there on the left.  It was 96º here today.  Harry Potter #7.  A Hawaiian coin purse, a doll, a princess costume, various plastic thingies, a doll's arm sticking up from the floor (I think she's saying, "HELP!  GET ME OUT OF THIS MESSY, DUSTY HOUSE!"), a snack container devoid of snacks.  Why put it away after you've drained the contents, right? I can make this perfect-house-thing an idol, or I can keep reminding myself that there really are more valuable things in life.  I didn't say I won't expect others to pick up after themselves or to take care of what we have been given.  But really, there are better things to occupy our time than making our home a showcase.  Like this one:

Mighty Joe

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Fall 2010 Circle Time, Part II
So, here we are. We just spent ten days traveling with our three oldest children, spent a day getting unpacked and settled back at home, started school today, and will tear out our kitchen next week. At the same time, God has been sending those BOLD but GENTLE warnings He's so good at, and this time we are hearing two words repeated: GIVE GRACE. GIVE GRACE They pack a punch, don't they?

The highlight of our Fall 2010 Circle Time is our Lamp and Quill Bible Study on the books of Acts, Romans, Galatians, and eight more of Paul's epistles. God has seen fit to move our family out of one church and into another, so we thought it appropriate to study the early church this year. I love the layout of Lamp and Quill studies. Each age level has their own book with questions and activities geared especially to them, so while my junior higher is answering questions about the text, my three-year-old is coloring a picture of what happened in the chapter that week. There are crafts if you want that option, and the study is meaty enough for me. We're also still (still! Year three, I think) working through Notgrass's Draw to Learn the Book of Proverbs, but we remain with it because my four who are doing it love it so much. Maybe one of these years we'll get to move on, eh? But the reason it has taken us so long to get through the whole book is that I tend to toss it into the mix only a few days a week. They literally squeal when I pull it out, though. Lamp and Quill will take up the bulk of the 45 minutes we have set aside for Circle Time, so last on the list for the fall is A Young Scholars Guide to the Composers. I pretty much like everything Maggie Hogan produces, and this one promises to be a good fit for us, too. Coloring pages, links to sample pieces, chronological so I can major on the composers in the time period we're studying this year. And if I'm lucky, we'll actually memorize some poetry from First Language Lessons. Really, we will. I printed out the poetry pages posted at Homeschool Creations and at least they look cute in my Circle Time binder :)

I love it when big brothers read the Word to us

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Fall 2010 Circle Time, Part I
Leah recently sent me a link to her post about their family's Circle Time.  Great ideas there (thanks, Leah!) and it got me to wondering if more of you have posts about Circle Time up on your blogs.  Would you consider sharing with us? I have lots of fun Circle Time plans in the works, but boy howdy are things looking different for us this year.  Our oldest son has a job detailing cars and taking care of the shop at a car dealership.  He is gone three days a week, and on the other three days he studies (he takes a day off).   This means he's only around for our morning Circle Time two days in the week. Our next-in-line son is going to a friend's house three days a week for Algebra tutoring (God bless willing friends!), and his at-home mornings are different days than his older brother's.  We have ONE day when we're all home together. Makes for major schedule tweaking! On our one day together, we're reading Britt Merrick's Big God.  Oh, yes He is a big, big God!  Does it go over the littlest one's heads?  Probably.  Is it simpler than my oldest guys or I can handle reading?  Yup.  But the simple truths of God's love and grace and mercy and BIGness can never be outgrown or under-heard.
We have guests from San Antonio here this week, then we're off to Washington D.C. with our oldest three.  Yippee!  When I return we're starting school whole-hog then tearing our kitchen out.  I want to post more about our fall Circle Time soon, but in the meantime if you're looking for resources, check out the Circle Time page on our Amazon store. I'll also be giving away some Circle Time ebooks soon!  If you like free stuff, be sure to become a fan of Preschoolers and Peace on Facebook.  I like to sneak little giveaways in there :)
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