For Stacy- A Simple Woman's Day Book

As per Stacy's long-ago request: In the kitchen... Creme brulee for dessert after a salmon dinner.  Baked artisan loaves, too. I am thankful for... - A husband who sacrificially and joyfully puts us above his other worldly obligations. - A Mighty Joe beating the odds. - Children who take care of the ones below them. I am wearing... a Land's End khaki skort and an aqua blue t-shirt.  Oh hey!  Just like in the photo at the right.  Maybe it's time to go shopping.  Starfish earrings. I am sewing... hems, hems, and more hems.  Short girls will have to hem the rest of their lives.  This I know. I am hearing... Nate on the guitar.  He gets better and better each week.  Girls giggling before bed.  Husband clacking the computer keys. I am reading... A Gift From the Sea. I just saw... a goose egg on Christian's little head.  Stroller crash. I am looking forward to... a weekend away with husband and best friends.  And Miss Pearl's. I am thinking... about the music I want to upload to my iPod for the day tomorrow.

I am remembering... that there are many, many other things I ought to be doing other than this post :)

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I've Found A Measure of Peace...

And guess how?  That's right- I took my own advice.  Good idea, dontcha think?  Seems I can dish it out but I'm not always so great about following it.  Christina reminded me of this: "In the short time I’ve read your blog, my biggest take away has been FLEXIBILITY- Be ready to be flexible with your children’s schedule and make changes based on changes in the family." Christina is not even homeschooling yet and already she has a better grasp than I do.  You go! I have to make good use of the times when the two babies don't need me.  Much as I would like a go-with-the-flow, loosy goosy day, I know that all the thinking on my feet would do me in.  I also badly needed time with each child that would allow me to focus on their academic needs, even if the time was brief. We implemented the new routine on Wednesday and immediately the day was peaceful.  Enjoyable.  And I wasn't utterly exhausted by noon.  Thursday and Friday followed suit, and now I'm not stressed about the coming week. -------------------------------------- Morning Stuff Breakfast and Clean Up Circle Time Chores Read Aloud (currently it's Men of Iron) Lunch and Clean Up **Babies Go Down for Nap** Quiet Hour 30 Minutes with 8th Grader 30 Minutes with 6th Grader 30 Minutes with 2nd Grader 15 Minutes with Kindergartner 30 Minutes with 4th Grader 30 Minutes with 10th Grader (because he asked for time with me- mostly he reads me his legal briefs and other stuff and we just chat.  Nice way to end the academic day!) ---------------------------------------- The day is long, and yes I'm ready for Dad to come home at night.  But it's what is working in this season of our lives (flexibility!) and it has been very, very good. During the time with each child individually, the others are working on other school work, practicing instruments, working on projects, or watching a short video (the little girls).  If the 19-month-old wakes up, someone grabs him and takes him outside to play. It's working!  We have both preschoolers and peace :)
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Schedules and Running Around Like a Chicken

These are actually our chickens.  They are typically as befuddled as I am.

That's what I do.  I run around like a chicken with my head cut off.  Something's gotta change around here! Today as I blearally stared at the piece of lined paper before me on the school room table, thoughts of how to possibly tweak my schedule so as to curtail some of that headless chicken feeling overtook me.  I've been ruminating all evening, so much so that I haven't much else to offer you, poor reader, until I get this mess all figured out. I'm toying with going back to a schedule that makes the most of the afternoon hours while baby and toddler are sleeping.  I did that once before with success, but something about letting go of our current craziness unsettles me, as if perhaps the unfamiliar must somehow be scarier than the familiar, which really isn't working at all.  Goofy. In the meantime, go enter that contest if you haven't already.  And on the 16th, the Bluedorns at Trivium Pursuit have a special offer for you that will be posted right here as well.

I'm off to play with my Excel Spreadsheet.  The life I lead!

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Bring Your Children to the Gospel Every Day
I have a little girl who is struggling with her sin a lot lately, not that we ever have a time when we are not.  It's just that hers seems to be rather visible and loud and dramatic at the moment.  These sins are hard to swallow but easier to battle; it's the hidden sin, the sneaky stuff that really troubles me as a mom.  If I fear man more than God, then the outwardly obnoxious sins of my children that embarrass me in front of other people chafe at me far more than the sins my children keep neatly tucked away, out of human sight.  But if I am fearing God more than man, I will hate it all and think as God thinks. In God's ecomony, sin is sin.  There are no levels or degrees of severity.  All of our sin, ALL of it, is putrid and filthy.  And there is nothing we can do about it.  There is not a prayer we can say, an amount we can pay, an act of any sort that will wipe away our guilt before God. But there is the Gospel.  The good news.  There is Christ.  Our Mediator.  Our righteousness.  Our Saviour.  The Good News is not just that He came to earth, died on the cross, was buried and rose again.  The good news is that He stands in our place before the judgment seat of God, on our behalf, and clothes us with His righteousness that we might be saved.  It is His work, not ours. I sat on the couch with my little girl tonight and told her the story all over again.  We marvelled together at the amazing truth that we, she and I, are completely unworthy and undeserving of God's grace and mercy.  As in Ezekiel, we were just dry old bones unable to pick ourselves up and dance without the breath of God blown through us.  And I took her to the Gospel.  The good news that Christ put on all our sin and filthiness and gave us His perfect cleanliness, his spotless cloak, as it were, so that we will one day stand before God as righteous, perfect people. The Gospel produces fruit.  The Gospel causes us to love Christ more.  Jesus said, "If you love Me, you will keep My commands".  Out of our love for Christ, we desire to obey Him better.  We, and our children. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Have you read The Priest With Dirty Clothes? It's a parable of the Gospel, and it speaks volumes to little ones just beginning to understand the good news.  One Wintry Night tells the story of redemption and the Gospel from creation to resurrection.
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Do Hard Things- Helping the Older Ones See the Beauty of Servanthood

My question is: how do I get my older children to not grumble about having to take turns playing with my preschooler while I homeschool? They grumble about making lunch for their younger sisters at times too. Thank you, and congratulations on little Joe! Beth Hi Beth- Recently I asked my husband about how to admonish one of our teen children. He (the child) is 500% more logical than I am, and it seems every conversation was a battle of wits for which I am ill-equipped. My husband said, "Turn to Scripture. The bottom line is, if God said it, he has to obey it. If the Holy Spirit isn't prompting him, then all the arguing in the world won't change his heart." Teens love to test the waters. And even if we have an excellent relationship with them, they will often grumble when they don't want to do something and argue their point to the death. For my son, his logical spin on everything is both a front-sided strength and a back-sided weakness; he is headed to law school to study Constitutional Law. His tenacity and love for rhetoric and debate will serve him well in that capacity, but in the meantime he also needs to learn when to turn it off and just be a servant to those around him. When appealing to your older children, turn to Scripture. Don't beat them over the head with it, but simply remind them that, "He who is greatest in My kingdom is the servant of all." You might want to pick up a copy of Do Hard Things, as well. My boys have been really challenged by the book, although it has been a slow and steady influence (I was hoping they'd read it and then -BAM!- be the hardest workers on the block!). The Holy Spirit's timing is never the same as mine :) ~Kendra
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